A Moment of Suffering

27 Sep

suffering

Because we live in a world that seeks beauty without effort and success without hard work, we have come to misunderstand what it means to suffer.

Suffering is not something that happens to be people who are bad or deserve it. Suffering is a part of the process of living. Through our suffering we learn to accept that we are not in control…and we’re not supposed to be. That control we think we possess is an illusion and suffering will cause the mirage to fade.

In truth, suffering is what we were dong before things became uncomfortable. It didn’t feel like suffering because we have mastered the art of anesthetizing our feelings. And then one day the suffering that has been going unnoticed becomes so strong it cannot be ignored. At that moment we would like to believe that it is something that suddenly happened. Unfortunately, it had probably been happening for quite some time.

Remember the tone of the country after 9/11? People were afraid because it seemed to happen so suddenly. Then remember the shock and horror when it was discovered that the pilots were trained here in our country and had probably been plotting that event for years. It’s scary to think about; however, had we already been taking certain precautions, had we not become so narcissistic as to think we were above being struck down, it might never have happened that way. The good thing is that, despite the way it happened, what happened in the aftermath of suffering was beautiful, wanted, and needed. People helped one another. People were gentle and compassionate with one another. It was one of the most beautiful things I have seen. The country was bound together in love through our suffering. Suffering forces us to pull on the best of our humanity.

A friend of mine once prided himself on his education, his career, and the success of what he had accomplished. Then he was fired from his job. In the course of the next year he lost his home, his car, his fiance, and a good number of people he had considered friends. He took it in stride and continued to laugh and smile. One day I sat with him and I asked him if he was happy. He looked at me with a quiet sadness in his eyes and said, “I hated that job, I never could afford that house or car, and I never believed my girlfriend and I would be together forever. I wasn’t happy then. So, you can’t lose something you never had.”

Suffering humbles the spirit and forces us to look beyond all the superficial, temporary things that we use to make us “happy.” Suffering strips us down to our true selves and in our suffering we see our life for what it really is.

So the next time we find ourselves suffering, we shouldn’t waste time feeling sorry for ourselves and trying to blame someone or something for where we are. Instead we should see it for what it is: an opportunity to know the truth and respond to the truth with the best that we have.

Suffering, like so many things in life, works in contradiction to teach us life lessons. Only the heartbroken ever really understand love, only the poor ever appreciate wealth, only those that suffer ever truly understand life.

Violet Ambitions turn suffering into healing.

From Moment to Moment

26 Jun

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Faith. I have often spoken against the notion of Faith as a religious concept. It is a disabling thing to pin such a powerful ideal up into a category. The connotation is there, of course, because of how the word is used; however, faith is more like courage. The only difference is that usually when we use the word courage we are speaking about a belief in ourselves to overcome opposition. Faith suggests that something through us, something that we are believing external from us is working for our benefit. The external force can be love or hope or an individual. Faith puts into play the notion that maybe the world does not hate us. Maybe everything external from our being is not our enemy. Faith is a powerful concept.

We have also come to think of Faith as something we obtain once and carry it forever. But I submit to you that faith is not a commodity to be bought and coveted. It is something that requires attention and conscious will to maintain. Faith never means that we won’t have doubts; it just means we will overcome them…from moment to moment.

Violet Ambitions shall endure all doubts.

Limitless

24 Jun

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Our world has become full of rules and restrictions because the powers that be surmise that an individual is incapable of knowing what is best for themselves. We are so comforted by the thought of not being responsible for our own destinies that we settle into the box that has been created and ignore the fact that it is a prison.

Every time someone has said you can’t, you won’t, you shouldn’t, or you don’t know how, they are creating a prison in which you will be held captive and, therefore, never meet your destiny. Destiny is not in a box; it’s somewhere out there in the big scary world. Go find it.

When you know who you are and you know the strength you possess, you are free to follow your destiny. There is so much uncertainty and doubt about that fact. But don’t mistake your fear with practicality; it’s not. The truth is like all creatures held in captivity, we fear our freedom. We no longer recognize the vastness of hope. We fear the limitlessness of our potential. But, I submit to you that your fear cannot change your destiny. Nor is it big enough to block your path if you decide to chase your dreams. Accept your limitlessness.

If fear should follow you on that journey, let it. I guarantee it will tire you before you do and you will arrive at destiny with nothing but that which endures: the faith, hope, and love inside you.

Violet Ambitions are limitless.

The Price of Freedom

15 Jun

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In a world full of oppression, the answer we seek is freedom. In order to free yourself from the binds and restraints of life, you will have to fight; you wi have to sacrifice. Freedom comes at a price.

The price of freedom, is for a period of time, your peace. Liberation is a violent and messy process. The battle for freedom may cost you everything you have, including your peace. But remember that when it’s over you will be better. Every birthing process is dangerous and rebirth is both terrifying and dangerous.

Remember that somewhere in the struggle, with the odds against you, you will be reborn as a valiant conquerer. You will emerge battered, bruised, and victorious. Peace will return. You will be new. You will be better. You will be free.

Violet Ambitions will liberate you.

All Things New

29 May

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There are a dozen phrases and sayings that express the constant flux in our world. Things are always changing. Somehow we, as a people, have come to place emphasis on notions of stability, security, and consistency. In truth those things don’t actually exist. The world is unstable, uncertain, ever-changing, and completely inconsistent. It is, therefore, unnatural for any person to reflect those qualities. People who attempt to embody such qualities usually find themselves in a rigid, burdensome existence where they resent those who are able to embrace the magic of change.

We must allow the world and especially the people in it to be whatever they are and need to be at any given time. It is an offensive gesture to demand anything else. When we do we assume that we have the knowledge and understanding to know what they should be instead. Such a condescension assumes an authority of the natural forces of the world; that is egregious.

We must come to the world and the people in it in a spirit of empathy, curiosity, and love. We must first understand why a person is what they are (their origins), respect them for who and what they are, and accept them just as they are. This validation unlocks the door for love, intimacy, and influence. It is from this vantage point that any leverage for inspiring change (should change be needed) in an individual.

There is no right or wrong evolution, there is no good or bad growth. There is just change. Anyone who has ever endeavored to spend a lifetime with someone knows that people change. Sometimes we like it and sometimes we don’t. But it is a beautiful thing to commit to not abandoning someone as they evolve.

The opportunity to witness another person becoming is a gift that deserves reverence, not judgment and ruthless critique (theres plenty of that in the world to go around). It is why we are connected to each other and why we come into contact with each other. It is scary, nerve wrecking, and exciting to watch the world and people in it evolve. When we embrace change in people and the world, we realize that it is not a neurotic pathology that needs to be fixed. It is the world seeking to be better and evolve. It is a person seeking to actualize an heal their wounds. It is the universe seeking to reconcile it’s inhabitants unto itself.

Everything old becomes new again.

Violet Ambitions are nested in evolution and rebirth.

Ravaged by Truth

15 May

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Philosophers have often commented about the inevitability of truth. It always comes to the light or it will set you free. What they have not always said is that it will turn your world inside out. We have been trained to fake it, to lie, to deceive, but if and when the truth comes for you (as they say it inevitably will), succumb to it. Let it ravage you.

However uncomfortable, embarrassing, or painful, let it take you. We should always give ourselves over to the truth when it comes. Most often it will be laced with a lie that will incite us to protest, but we shouldn’t protest. Anywhere there is truth, let it be. We should it have its way with us, because in that part that is truth we will be made free.

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The freedom that comes with truth is the liberation from the lies. We will find a way to stand bare before the world and say “this is who I am. It is not all pretty or all perfect but I commit to it.” When we embrace the truth we disarm those who would oppose us, we liberate ourselves to focus on that which truly matters…love and truth.

Violet Ambitions seek truth.

Perfect Love

15 May

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The world would have us to believe that love comes with a set of pretenses. All too often we hear people try to justify loving another person. They say because it’s my mother or father ; they say it’s because they are good to me ; they say it’s because I’ve known them for so long. In truth, love is a choice we make. We either decide to love someone or we don’t. And, yes, there are as many justifications for not loving as there for loving.

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We seek to justify love or the lack thereof out of fear. We are afraid that the love we have is not perfect. We’re afraid it call upon us to do something that we may not want to do or that we will fail to do. It’s understandable and it’s egregious because we typically project those feelings onto those people we love, are trying to love, or are afraid to love.

But love is a removing of the masks our lives force us to wear. Love is a willingness to have our souls stripped bare before another human being. Love is a disarming of the weapons we carry to protect us from heartbreak. At any time if we should not be willing to e defenseless and transparent, we have offended love and should not expect love to grace us.

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Love is only perfect when it is unconditional. When we love regardless of the flaws we find and simply because we can, then is love perfect. Our only desire for love must be to have it, keep it and cultivate it. Everything else is a perversion, a contamination, that makes love less than perfect.

Violet Ambitions are fueled by a perfect love.

Perception In Flux

9 May

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People are, by our very nature, covetous creatures. The problem with coveting is not the desire or the possession. there is nothing wrong with wanting things and not everything that we desire is bad or wrong. It is our reason for doing so that causes trouble.

It is good to seek knowledge and understanding. We all have questions; however, all too often we cling to the truths we find. We give our knowledge a weight it does not deserve. We hinge our self-esteem, our purpose, our very reason for being on what we know. And because we have placed so much of our identity and life on a few truths we have discovered, we cannot afford to have that changed or erased. We will refuse to consider that are other truths, other perspectives, other possibilities. The truth, then, becomes a prison in which we hold ourselves captive.

We must recognize that in the vastness of the universe, whatever fraction of knowledge we possess is both infantile and incomplete. If the truth is what we seek, it must begin with humility and an acceptance of our limitations. We must learn not to hold onto what we know today, realizing that what we know tomorrow may change everything. We must understand that throughout or lives everything we learn we will have to learn again.

Violet Ambitions are constantly in flux.

Embrace or Endure

3 May

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Life is scary. The uncertainty. The never knowing. The endless, unanswered questions. It can be overwhelming. I can remember a particular time in my life when it seemed that everything was moving so fast I could hardly keep up. It seemed like one thing after another and although some of the changes were welcomed, I was a little intimidated to step into them fully. I sat with a friend and casually discussed some of my ideas for the year and things I wanted to accomplish. She was immediately enthused and began to grill me on my plans. Seeing my hesitance, she asked:

“Why don’t you just go ahead and do it?”

“Because I’m scared,” I answered honestly. She leaned forward and placed her hand on my knee,

“Then do it afraid.”

My fear was no longer an obstacle, it was just something I was feeling: nothing more, nothing less.

What is fear but the body’s response to a threatening situation? When we are really scared adrenaline courses through our body, our senses sharpen, our reflexes quicken, and anything going on in our body that does not help us avoid or overcome the threat is suppressed. In essence we are biologically designed to deal with challenges and fear is the switch that triggers our best response.

So, then, why do we seek to avoid fear? Why do we allow fear to grip us and make us impotent? When in fact fear is necessary to invoke certain responses in us. We must recognize fear for what it is: a catalyst. It’s not too be avoided. If it cannot be embraced then it must be endured, because sometimes we must do that thing that we fear we cannot do.

Fear will not hinder Violet Ambitions.

The Beautiful Gate

3 May

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There is a gate called beautiful
Where you could
Have your infirmities relieved
Have your captivity released
Believe
And breathe
Live beyond the limitations
Of reality
I wasn’t strong enough to go all the way
The presence of my vulnerability would have exposed your own
And you’re much too grown
Too cowardly to be weak
Might have cost you that mask
It would have been too much to ask:
Could you not hide?
Could you let me inside?
Let’s begin healing
Cause trust’s faded in the waking
Of the war that’s been raging
The constant taking
The emotional raping
I possessed too much humanity
Should have been more godly: impenetrable and other worldly
Maybe then I’d have been worthy of the effort it would take
Of the mistakes we were to make
To reshape fate
Maybe then you wouldn’t have left me lying at the beautiful gate

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